(of course, we're way too disorganized to divorce)
- Accentuate the positive.
If the thought crosses your mind that you're grateful that he watched the kids or washed the dishes, that he looks cute, or has a nice smile, or how pleasant it is to hear his voice on the telephone, say so immediately.
- Be diplomatic and constructive about the negative.
Before you complain, think: What's going on with him? Is this a good time?
Is there some weakness of your own you can admit to in preface to complaining about his? For example, "I know I left my clothes on the floor yesterday, but I didn't find your dirty socks under the bed until after I did laundry today. So if you want clean socks, could you please try to remember to throw your dirty ones in the hamper?"
- Have sex as frequently as possible.
It reduces stress, makes you feel closer together, and is probably a big reason why you got married in the first place.